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Classmate Tragedy

Classmate Tragedy

The following section is designed to assist the teacher or counselor in preparing the class to help a student who has experienced a tragedy prior to their return to the class.

Example: Death of a friend or family member

Explain what is known of the loss

Are there things people said or did that made you feel better?

How do you think our classmate might be feeling?

What could you say that might help him/her know you care? Guide
          students responses towards helpful comments and away from less
           helpful comments.

What would you want someone to say to you if you experienced the
          death of  someone close?

Are there things you could do that may help them feel better?

We can take our cues from the person that will guide our actions.
          What might some of those cues be?

When A Grieving Classmate Returns:

First Words

The classmate probably feels like he/she is from a different planet when
          returning to school

At least say, "hello," "welcome back," "I’m glad to see you," or
          something similar

The brave might even say: "I missed you," "I’m so sorry to hear

        about  your ’s death."

Even braver friends might make statements like, "It must be incredibly

          tough to have your die."

Other options include: write a brief note or card, call, etc.

If your classmate cries, that is okay; you did not cause the grief; offer
          comfort and a tissue

Helping the Classmate Adjust to the Class:

Offer to provide past notes from missed classes

Offer to provide notes for comparison for the next week or so
          (your classmate’s attention span will probably vary for several weeks)

Give the classmate your phone number to call if having problems with homework

Ask your classmate if you can call to check on how homework is going

Offer to study together in person or over the phone; this might help with
          both motivation and with concentration; grieving students frequently do
          not feel like doing school work

Some Don’ts:

Don’t shun the student, speak to them

No cliché statements (e.g., "I know how you feel" when nobody knows
          the unique relationship the classmate had with the deceased)

Don’t expect the person to snap back into the "old self"

Don’t be surprised if classmate seems unaffected by the loss, everybody
          has his/her own way of grieving

Don’t be afraid to ask appropriate questions about the deceased, like "what
          did you and your enjoy together?" (people often like to talk about the
           people they grieve)

Just because the classmate may seem to be adjusting to school again,
          don’t assume the grieving has stopped, nor the need for comfort and friendship

 


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